Do you know what's worse than being unable to convert people to Christianity?
Converting people to Islam by setting a poor example of Christians.
Which is what the two of you (ephesians and lynn) are in danger of doing.
Take an example from Jesus and His story about the good Samaritan. He didn't bash the Samaritans faith he pointed out how he was the more neighbourly person, setting the better example.
It's one thing to sit in front of your computer and type what good things you do and it's another thing to actually be able to go out there and kiss the foot that kicks you in the mouth.
And consider the sinner who was more righteous beating his chest and asking God to have mercy on him rather than guy thanking God for not being a 'sinner'!