Re: Hi I'm Blaggard and I'm..
You and you're friend are in a war. Somehow your friend has been surrounded and captured, and you are hidden and can watch them. You see them torture him, beat him, dismember him, defile him and commit atrocities to him. You are not in a position to have done anything without expecting the same treatment.
When you get back do you tell his mother what happened, about how he screamed whilst they laughed? Or do you tell her that they made it quick.
Surely it's not better for the mother to know why. You do it for yourself so you don't see her pain, but does she have to bear your burden?